This spring term I'm taking a class on marriage and family. Its been great to learn and reflect on things that are becoming more and more important in my life. For our class we have to write an "Essentials Paper": a rather informal paper that describes the qualities we feel are essential in our eternal companion.
Here's a start I'm working on:
“One of the most beautiful, comforting doctrines of the Lord—one that brings immense peace, happiness, and unbounded joy—is that principle called eternal marriage.” The thing about eternal marriage is that it doesn’t just last for this lifetime - none of this “till death do us part” business; Eternal marriage lasts forever. With the consequences being eternal, who you marry for eternity is kind of a big deal. Given the severity of this decision and its impact on your eternal destiny, how do you go about selecting a mate? What is important? What should you look for? Growing up I thought common interests were important; I wanted them to like traveling, languages, ice cream, and swing dancing. I’ve come to realize, in finding my future spouse in the past few months, that the only necessary quality is that he is attractive. He can hate ballroom dancing and rather spend all of his time attached to a harness climbing a rock but as long as he’s attractive, its okay. He can have never been to Asia and rather be found strapped to a snowboard on the slopes of Utah, but as long as he’s attractive, its okay.
Now, before you call me shallow and materialistic, before you tell me beauty fades and that other things are much more important, understand what I mean by attractive. While physical attraction is essential to healthy marriages, ““There is more to a foundation of eternal marriage than a pretty face or an attractive figure.” You must be attracted to your spouse much more than just physically. You must be attracted to him spiritually; His devotion to God, and his understanding of the pure love of Christ must draw you to him. He must be attractive intellectually; He should understand the importance of education and his goals in that area should entice you to get to know him better.. He must be attractive emotionally; He should be caring, considerate, communicative, inspiring, and loving. You must want him for what he is and what he is trying to become.
|Epitome of Attractive :P|