Welcome SOML readers! I am so excited to have you :) You can check out my about me, or my recent reintroduction to my readers here. Or, if you want to jump right in, today I'm talking about a favorite subject, love.
So I'm not an expert at falling back in love, but falling in love again - that I do everyday. For me, the key is falling in love over and over with Ben so I never have to fall back into love with him. Here are my 10 tips for staying in love, or falling in love again.
Disclaimer: I've only been married for 11 months
(today actually- we're celebrating later - yes, we celebrate things like that).
Reminisce together. Find memories in scrapbooks or old notes. Look at past facebook pictures or even saved text messages.
Make time just to have fun. Set aside specific time once a week to do something where you laugh. Maybe its going on a silly date, watching a comedy, ticking each other - whatever it is, make sure you laugh. [you'll notice all the pictures here are of laughter instead of those sappy ones I feel like I share all the time]
Learn to forgive. Its hard. And a lot of the time its contrary to what the selfish in us wants to do - but its possibly the most important thing on this list.
Create mystery. You can't know everything about each other. Let yourself wonder about him, and give him a little reason to wonder about you. Keep just a smidgen of that curiosity that fueled the relationship in the first place.
Love yourself. Its true, its hard to love anyone else the way they deserve if you don't love yourself. Take time for you. Maybe its a manicure, a long run, or working hard at your job; Do whatever you need to make you feel awesome about yourself.
Spend some time apart. Make sure you keep up with your girlfriends, or make some. I love spending time with Ben, and I love it even more when I haven't seen him for a few hours and I jump in his arms after a whole weekend. Don't spend too much time apart - but those girls are more important to your relationship than you know.
Serve them. Pick up their laundry. Pack their lunch. Do little things for them.
Tell them you love them, without saying it. Of course, saying it with your voice is so important, but remind them with little things: notes, favorite candy bars, random text messages, unsolicited kisses, you get the idea.
Choose love. Love is a feeling - but its also an action. Its something you choose. Its something you can choose, everyday.
Like this? For other tips on summer romance, check out this post.How do you keep falling in love?
What are your tips for keeping a romance alive?
Have any awesome Friday plans? :)