Welcome SOML readers! I am so excited to have you :) You can check out my about me, or my recent reintroduction to my readers here. Or, if you want to jump right in, today I'm talking about a favorite subject, love.
So I'm not an expert at falling back in love, but falling in love again - that I do everyday. For me, the key is falling in love over and over with Ben so I never have to fall back into love with him. Here are my 10 tips for staying in love, or falling in love again.
Disclaimer: I've only been married for 11 months
(today actually- we're celebrating later - yes, we celebrate things like that).
Reminisce together. Find memories in scrapbooks or old notes. Look at past facebook pictures or even saved text messages.
Make time just to have fun. Set aside specific time once a week to do something where you laugh. Maybe its going on a silly date, watching a comedy, ticking each other - whatever it is, make sure you laugh. [you'll notice all the pictures here are of laughter instead of those sappy ones I feel like I share all the time]
Learn to forgive. Its hard. And a lot of the time its contrary to what the selfish in us wants to do - but its possibly the most important thing on this list.
Create mystery. You can't know everything about each other. Let yourself wonder about him, and give him a little reason to wonder about you. Keep just a smidgen of that curiosity that fueled the relationship in the first place.
Love yourself. Its true, its hard to love anyone else the way they deserve if you don't love yourself. Take time for you. Maybe its a manicure, a long run, or working hard at your job; Do whatever you need to make you feel awesome about yourself.
Spend some time apart. Make sure you keep up with your girlfriends, or make some. I love spending time with Ben, and I love it even more when I haven't seen him for a few hours and I jump in his arms after a whole weekend. Don't spend too much time apart - but those girls are more important to your relationship than you know.
Serve them. Pick up their laundry. Pack their lunch. Do little things for them.
Tell them you love them, without saying it. Of course, saying it with your voice is so important, but remind them with little things: notes, favorite candy bars, random text messages, unsolicited kisses, you get the idea.
Choose love. Love is a feeling - but its also an action. Its something you choose. Its something you can choose, everyday.
How do you keep falling in love?
What are your tips for keeping a romance alive?
Have any awesome Friday plans? :)
Love,
Elisabeth
38 comments:
Happy 11 months!
I love this. :)
The tip about looking into eyes is so true! I haven't tried it with my husband, but we did it in an acting class at the beginning of the semester to help us feel comfortable and close with each other, and it was such a cool experience!
Oh, I would totally celebrate an 11 month anniversary!! Any reason to celebrate and I'm there. :)
Happy 11 month anniversary! On the 9th it will be mine and my husbands one month, LOL!
Thank you for posting this, I love your blog! Stop by and say hi sometime!
www.dysfunctionaleverafter.com
Congrats on 11 months! Here's to one more month to make it your first year married together :)
Stopping by from Jenni's blog. My name is Alisha, and I love making new friends! Yay!! Your love tips couldn't be more spot on. Finding something, anything to laugh about is always great for your relationship!
Happy Friday!
xo
Alisha
I LOVE this post, everything you mentioned is so true! happy weekend, keep the love alive!!
xx
Haha you, me and Brooke are all ALMOST at the year mark. I liked all of these things. I found a writer I adore who has been married 15 years, and she said having ONE THING that is your "Own thing" that you just go off and do without your spouse and dont have to talk about it, is really good for keeping your sense of happiness and independence. I was surprised, but I want to try it... it's easy to feel less like a person when you are such a unit, but I agree, making self time and friend time makes couple time all the more fun.
I absolutely love this post. I'm a huge love fan too. I agree with everything in this post. Love, along with everything else, is something you need to work on and keep working on. Great post!!
xoxo Amber
this is pretty darn cute, if you ask me (and i've been married almost two years!).. and lemme tell you, this marriage thing.. oh boy.. work, i tell ya.. work and love and passion..
i'm new here from story of my life! i'm loving your spunk and zest for life!
happy 11 months!
Happy 11 months!!! This is such a cute post. Glad to see the lifting up of marriage :)
Happy 11 months! I absolutely loved this post. Great advice!! Newest follower : )
This is too cute. Happy 11 months! Any reason to celebrate is fine by me :) You two are adorable!
Happy 11 months!! I've been married TWELVE years! I sound like an old married lady now. ;) Great advice! Glad you are taking steps to ensure that your love will keep going. It is effort and work, but SO worth it! A happy marriage is such a blessing!!! Love the blog... and guess what? Now, I'm YOUR newest follower! So, there!...
Amen sista friend. I can see this working well with people not married for too long. Serving them is the biggest thing, I think for sure!
we & serendipity
Happy 11 months :) Don't feel silly, my boyfriend and I have celebrated every month anniversary since we started dating 2 and a half years ago.
I have married for 28 years!.
Don't over analyze every single action just live!.
Be best friends!.
Plenty of sex!.
Don't cheat or lie.
Keep it simple!.
Such cute pctures- it looks like you guys have so much fun. I love what you said about how love is an action- it reminds me of this book my mom used to have that was called "Love is a Verb." It always kind of bothers me when people say they "fell out of love." It requires constant work for sure, but so worth it!
YAY!!! You are awesome & I'm so glad we spell our name the right way! :) :) Your blog is adorable!! :)
I agree with all these things!!! I would also add praying for your spouse. It really works. :)
http://lilgunnellfam.blogspot.com/
My favorite way to fall in love over and over is just to sit and talk to each other and laugh. I love listening to the way my fiance thinks and talks and laughs.... Happy 11 months to you! And thanks so much for stopping by my blog from the blog hop. I'm following you now and hope you'll come back to visit me soon!
Hey thanks for following! I'm ALMOST your 500th follower!! :)
Great tips by the way!
-Missy
such great advice and wisdom! happy 11 months - so amazing! :) love your wedding pics. just stumbled upon your blog and glad i did - you're precious!
excited to follow along & read more :)
xo
erin
sweetnessitself.blogspot.com
I just found your blog yesterday from SOML and I love it so much. You're advice is so great. My boyfriend and I aren't married yet, so I love reading your advice on how to keep things alive once we are and your own adventures as a married couple.
Happy 11 months to you and Ben!
Tarran
livinginlovewithtando.blogspot.com
Happy 11 months! We must have gotten married a couple weeks before you.....our 1 year anniversary is in 2 weeks,
Love this post :-)
Carly
www.lipglossandcrayons.com
So I totally thought I'd followed your blog but I hadn't. Shame on me. I'm so sad I've been missing these posts! I'll have to catch up. You and your hubby are adorable by the way. Happy 11 Months! Our 4 months was on the 6th too. Yay for newlyweds!
xoxo kinzie
I know this is from Friday but I absolutely love it! It's exactly what I needed to hear today :)
Lovely post.
I found you through Crazy Mama's fun blog hop. I linked in a post about an artist that specialized in painting horses. Have a good week.
FANTASTIC post. i bet you fell more in love writing it too ; )
Thanks for linking up at the GFC Blog Hop today!!
This is great! Thanks for linking up with the blog hop!!
Rachel (co-host)
www.lalalists.com
love your wedding dress!
xoxo navy & orange
Happy 11 months! Great tips, I couldn't make a better list myself. I think one of the most important things that keeps my marriage strong is forgiveness. I used to be more stubborn and hold grudges more and that just drives you apart.
Just wanted to say I really loved reading this post...these are such great tips! I've been married for 11 months as well :) You & Ben are too cute!
Annie
The Other Side of Gray
Very sweet, you shared a lot of great tips! Thanks so much for sharing and I am a new follower! I am visiting from the GFC Hop over at The Life of a Not So Ordinary Wife!
Hope you are having a great weekend!
Michelle
www.delicateconstruction.com
Hey Elisabeth! I posted this link to my blog... Hope that's okay! I just think you have a lot of great tips!
http://empiricalday.blogspot.com/p/some-good-reads.html
such a great post!!you seem so happy and so in love!!
I found you through paige's blog!I'm subscribing!! it'd be great if you could subscribe to mine too!!
=)
dailylivingingeneva.blogspot.com
Loving these wise words! Thanks for sharing such great advice!
You guys are so sweet together, your love for each other is so clear in the pictures you shared.
Thanks for sharing!
Much Love!
L
allglorious-within.blogspot.com
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