A friend is not someone who hangs out with you,
or someone who texts, tweets, or facebooks you.
A friend isn't someone who always wants to make plans.
Of course, I have lots of good friends who do all of that, and hearing from them makes my days brighter. All those good friends hang out with me because they like to, because being with me does something for them. They ALSO do things for or with me because it does something for me. Does that make any sense? A friendship is a two way thing. Yeah, sometimes, when I'm super down, its a pretty one way street. And sometimes when they need it, its 100% about them. But, the majority of the time its a beautiful give and take - a very very important give and take.
Here is a good tip or two:
1. Ask a question for every one you answer.
2. Personal gain is important, but people trump things, events, or status every. single. time.
3. Be kind, not just fun.
"Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved."
Thanks for indulging me on that little rant,
For Kirsten who took these pictures
(and to Brooke (pictured above) for being an example of a great friend).
What do you think makes a good friend?
Tips on how to be one?